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“Positive minds live positive lives. There is always, always something to be thankful for and something to smile about. The happiest people are not those who get everything they want; they are those who, while in pursuit of worthy goals, notice and appreciate the beauty and sweetness of everyday moments.”

Marc and Angel (via internal-acceptance-movement)

“Stop looking at the past and all the things you can’t change. They’re done and over with. Now is the time for you to look to the future, grasp it by the hand, and decide where you want to go. This is your life. Only you can decide what it’s going to be like. Don’t let outside forces dictate it for you.”

Lacey Weatherford (via internal-acceptance-movement)

“You know, there are so many things you can’t control in life, like what happens to you or how people are going to react to what you do. It’s wasted energy to worry about it. But you can control how you react. That’s the trick.”

Katie Kacvinsky (via internal-acceptance-movement)

“Stop looking at the past and all the things you can’t change. They’re done and over with. Now is the time for you to look to the future, grasp it by the hand, and decide where you want to go. This is your life. Only you can decide what it’s going to be like. Don’t let outside forces dictate it for you.”

Lacey Weatherford (via internal-acceptance-movement)
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A lot of us think that by expecting the worst, we can protect ourselves from feeling hurt and disappointed.
We think that if something bad happens, we will be prepared for it, and if something good happens it will exceed our expectations.
It seems like a win-win scenario.
What we don’t realize however is that in our attempt to prevent ourselves from experiencing something bad, we are simultaneously preventing ourselves from experiencing anything good.
Because we have already decided that nothing good is going to happen, we put in less effort and give up more easily.
Our negative attitude becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy in which we create the very outcome we feared would become a reality.
In the moment, it’s easy to think that the bad things have happened because we’re inadequate or incapable. And by allowing those negative perceptions to become our truth, we perpetuate the self-sabotaging cycle. 
In order to find freedom, we have to recognize that the problem isn’t who we are, but our outlook.
It’s our defeatist attitude that causes our defeat—not our authentic selves.
The truth is that life isn’t perfect.
Bad things happen all the time, to everyone.
Not because we’re bad people, but because life is strewn with obstacles and hardship.
We may not be able to avoid certain struggles and unfavorable outcomes, but the one thing we always have control over is our attitude. 
We can choose to assume the worst and admit defeat.
Or we can choose to recognize our struggle as an opportunity for learning and growth.
We can choose to fixate on all of the bad things that have happened to us and allow them to discount the positives in our life, or we can choose to focus on all of the good things and use them as a reminder that more good can come our way.
We can choose to give up when things get difficult, or we can choose to do our best and continue to pick ourselves back up, no matter how many times we fall.
Our bad experiences may be uncomfortable and painful, but they are not without purpose.
Instead of trying to avoid hurt and disappointment, choose to redefine them.
Remind yourself that without the bad times, you wouldn’t be able to truly appreciate and cherish the good ones.
Without struggling, there would be no growth or self-discovery.
Without being wounded, you would never recognize your capacity to endure, overcome, and survive. 
So have faith in yourself and your abilities.
Don’t allow your fear of being hurt to prevent you from experiencing happiness.
Trust that as long as you try your best and don’t give up, you can make it through anything.

internal-acceptance-movement:

A lot of us think that by expecting the worst, we can protect ourselves from feeling hurt and disappointed.

We think that if something bad happens, we will be prepared for it, and if something good happens it will exceed our expectations.

It seems like a win-win scenario.

What we don’t realize however is that in our attempt to prevent ourselves from experiencing something bad, we are simultaneously preventing ourselves from experiencing anything good.

Because we have already decided that nothing good is going to happen, we put in less effort and give up more easily.

Our negative attitude becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy in which we create the very outcome we feared would become a reality.

In the moment, it’s easy to think that the bad things have happened because we’re inadequate or incapable. And by allowing those negative perceptions to become our truth, we perpetuate the self-sabotaging cycle. 

In order to find freedom, we have to recognize that the problem isn’t who we are, but our outlook.

It’s our defeatist attitude that causes our defeat—not our authentic selves.

The truth is that life isn’t perfect.

Bad things happen all the time, to everyone.

Not because we’re bad people, but because life is strewn with obstacles and hardship.

We may not be able to avoid certain struggles and unfavorable outcomes, but the one thing we always have control over is our attitude. 

We can choose to assume the worst and admit defeat.

Or we can choose to recognize our struggle as an opportunity for learning and growth.

We can choose to fixate on all of the bad things that have happened to us and allow them to discount the positives in our life, or we can choose to focus on all of the good things and use them as a reminder that more good can come our way.

We can choose to give up when things get difficult, or we can choose to do our best and continue to pick ourselves back up, no matter how many times we fall.

Our bad experiences may be uncomfortable and painful, but they are not without purpose.

Instead of trying to avoid hurt and disappointment, choose to redefine them.

Remind yourself that without the bad times, you wouldn’t be able to truly appreciate and cherish the good ones.

Without struggling, there would be no growth or self-discovery.

Without being wounded, you would never recognize your capacity to endure, overcome, and survive. 

So have faith in yourself and your abilities.

Don’t allow your fear of being hurt to prevent you from experiencing happiness.

Trust that as long as you try your best and don’t give up, you can make it through anything.

“You will go through your life thinking there was a day in second grade that you must have missed, when the grown-ups came in and explained, everything important to other kids. They said, ‘Look, you’re human, you’re going to feel isolated and afraid a lot of the time, and have bad self-esteem, and feel uniquely ruined, but here is the magic phrase that will take this feeling away. It will be like a feather that will lift you out of that fear and self-consciousness every single time, all through your life.’ And then they told the children who were there that day the magic phrase that everyone else in the world knows about and uses when feeling blue, which only you don’t know, because you were home sick the day the grown-ups told the children the way the whole world works. But there was not such a day in school. No one got the instructions. That is the secret of life. Everyone is flailing around, winging it most of the time, trying to find the way out, or through, or up, without a map. This lack of instruction manual is how most people develop compassion, and how they figure out to show up, care, help and serve, as the only way of filling up and being free.”

Anne Lamott (via internal-acceptance-movement)
#life   #adversity  

It’s been … 7 months since the fiasco with John happened.

I don’t feel like I’ve healed. I guess some things do just take longer to move past. I’ve thought long and hard what I’m going to do about ‘us,’ because of course I couldn’t make a clean break and we’re together. I’m fairly sure 90% of people I know will want to strangle me over that last sentence, but it is what it is.

However, the real point … I’ve got to let go of this lethargic depression. It’s hindering my entire life and I can’t just spend an entire year flailing in misery. Honestly, I want to. I don’t have any real closure, and I have a lot of fear, but it’s just not feasible, and it’s ruining my health.

I’ve noticed a definite increase in my drinking in the past few months. It really hit me when I went to the reception for my brother’s wedding. He and his wife (omg WIFE) paid for an open bar, and my step dad and uncle brought moonshine and two bottles of wine. I had three shots of moonshine, a quarter of a bottle of wine, and 11 or 12 mixed drinks … barely had an effect on me. I mean, I was drunk, but I wasn’t completely wasted or sick and I had no hangover.

Then, of course, there’s my weight. I know I’ve gained a little bit, but I don’t know how much because I haven’t weighed myself. It’s not an ungodly amount. I still fit into size 26 tops, which is the smallest I managed to fit in when I was taking this all super seriously. I know I’ve gained, though, because my favorite shirt … I can’t really wear it? It’s a button down, and it’s too tight. It’s very sad.

Still, it felt nice when I was trying on dresses for the wedding that I didn’t have to ask for a size 32. I don’t think David’s Bridal carries a 32, but the point is, I didn’t have to ask. I did need a 28, though … but they told me not to feel bad because their dresses run on the smaller side. It may or may not be true, but I fit fine into the size 26 dresses I tried on at other places, so I’ll just take their word for it. :B

So yeah, generic ‘getting back on track’ post. My life is about to change in a lot of ways, all of them positive, so hopefully I can find something somewhere to motivate me to make a positive change with my health like I used to want to do. I kind of miss living with my mom … it was so much easier to stay focused on my health when I had her there to be my cheerleader and go to the gym with me and eat the healthy meals I cooked. :C

The good news is, I still desperately need a belt because my pants are still falling down. I can’t put anything in my pockets or they’re gone. So, there’s that, I guess?

#personal   #health   #life  
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